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realweddings.ca 21 tell the difference between a ranunculus and a peony, but I can lift heavy things, give support, take direction, make phone calls, send emails, pick up licenses and, most importantly, I can listen." Reitsma agrees that it's wise to capitalize on your groom's 'do-er' nature. "ere are many times that grooms don't know what is involved, where to begin, what you are visualizing or if he is even allowed to participate in the planning," she says. "Ask him if he wants to be involved. Communicate fully and don't assume that he is not interested." Communicate, then let go. "If he wants to be involved, trust him with that task and don't micro- manage," adds Reitsma. HEAR HIM OUT "In reality, we're a lot more well versed than you give us credit for," says Sousa. "We know our families and workmates will be there, so we too want to put our best foot forward." Taking charge of their side of the guest list is a place where grooms can excel, he notes. "Coordinate your own family and friends because you probably know them best. A bride has a lot on her plate and probably isn't going to remember that your Aunt Grace had a falling out with your Uncle Victor, or that Cousin Michael is no longer a vegetarian, but is now a vegan." JUST KEEP TALKING Of course, creating and sticking to a budget is also critical for both bride and groom. "From my professional experience, most couples are paying for their own weddings and grooms want to know where the money is going," says Reitsma. "Be ready to compromise and take each other's ideas and interests into consideration. is day is about the bride and groom, so create it together and make sure it is true to you as a couple." Compromise, however, sometimes means saying no. But grooms who resist an idea should have a backup plan, advises Sousa: "Make sure that you can offer an option or solution. If you don't like the band she's chosen, offer up some bands that you enjoy. Who knows, she may actually agree with you. As long as you keep communicating about what you both want and don't want on the big day, you'll probably see that you are on the same page on a lot of things." Sounds like good advice. And clearly, it worked for Sousa and Gerlach. e pair made the walk down the aisle one sunny day this past August, on their way to happily ever after. (Check out their sweet engagement photo on page 17.) rw Dushan Floral.indd 1 14-09-22 9:19 AM