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Modern Romance PHOTO & VIDEO FOLLOW STANDARD ETIQUETTE If you're not inviting someone to the wedding, don't invite them to your showers, or parties leading up. "It's a hard-and- w modernromance.ca e info@modernromance.ca while it's fine to announce yo engagement on social media, keep ongoing refences to a minimum fast rule," says Toronto etiquette expert Karen Cleveland. "It is so hurtful to invite people to the events leading up to your wedding if you can't invite them to the wedding." COMMUNICATE WITH CARE 18 real weddings planning guide 2014 p16-19_Guest List.indd 18 "It's okay for you or your wedding party to be hinting to people that this is going to be a small wedding, but leave it at that," advises Post. For anyone who asks, have a polite answer ready, advises Cleveland. "Certainly, have a cordial but warm response saying that you're super-excited, though keeping things really small and intimate." And while it's fine to announce your engagement on social media, keep ongoing references to a minimum. "You don't want to be happily bragging about how gorgeous your dress is to people who won't get to see it," says Cleveland. "Really what it comes down to is, all these people are just so happy for [the couple] and they're excited," says Sunkel. If couples see it this way, "They can be a little more sensitive and understanding and tactful when they let them know it's going to be a small event." rw 13-11-26 11:55 AM