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If you want a small wedding regardless of budget, Post says, then "know how large you want it to be." MAKE THE LIST If parents are contributing to your wedding budget, Post says, "They are hosts, and they do have a right to be inviting people — at least a say. There is no set etiquette about who gets what percentage of the guest list. This is something every couple is going to need to negotiate with their parents." Possible scenarios, says Post, include having the couple take "half of the list and parents each their quarter [between the bride's side and the groom's side]." With their portion of the list, she explains, couples should think in terms of groups. "You have your list of college friends, and office friends, and your list of current social friends." If you have to cut a group, you explain accordingly: "It's not 'I had to cut you' — it's 'I'm limited with the list and I'm not able to invite anyone from work. I'm sure you understand.' " With your workplace, Sunkel has this advice: "If you [invite] somebody who is very obviously to everyone else a close personal friend, then everybody is going to understand that." In a group environment or small workplace, "If you invite one person, you're going to have to invite the entire team." Then again, if you don't have close friends at work, you simply may not invite anyone at all from the office. realweddings.ca p16-19_Guest List.indd 17 17 13-11-26 11:55 AM